Anyone else feel lonely even when surrounded by people?

Apr 19·1 min read

Got two kids, married, full schedule but I feel isolated as hell. Think it's because I'm always "on" and never actually talk to anyone real about how I'm doing. Friends ask how things are and I say good because what else do you say. Realized I have no close friends I actually confide in. Started looking into dad groups and going to talk to someone. Just wanted to throw this out there in case anyone else is in the same boat.

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AAlexRegularApr 20

I get this. Being 'on' all the time as a parent is exhausting. Even with your family around you're performing the role instead of actually connecting sometimes. Have you been able to carve out any time that's just for you?

DDaniel R.RegularApr 19

Yeah man, I feel that in my bones. Two kids, married, and somehow I still feel like I'm doing this alone half the time. The loneliness is real even when the house is full. It's the mental load I think.

MMason T.New DadApr 20

This hits hard. I think it's because parenting takes so much mental bandwidth that you can't actually be present even when you're physically there. You're always thinking about the next thing.

MMitchell R.RegularApr 20

For what it's worth, a lot of us feel this way. The schedule being full doesn't mean your cup is being filled. Might be worth talking to someone about it if you haven't already.