Work, kids, marriage, house stuff. I'm doing all of it but I feel like I'm running on fumes. Sleep is fine, I eat okay, but there's just this heaviness I can't shake. Talked to my wife about it and she thinks I might be depressed. Not sure if that's the answer or if I just need a vacation.
You're carrying a lot brother. Sometimes it's not about sleep or food, it's just the weight of doing everything. Maybe lean on your wife a bit more about how you're actually feeling.
Coffee used to be my fix too but I realized I was just masking something deeper. Might be worth checking in with yourself about what's actually draining you most.
Yeah I feel like that's just the reality of juggling everything at once. I'm constantly tired but somehow the adrenaline keeps me going through bedtime routines and work meetings. Something has to give eventually though. Have you talked to your wife about needing some actual recovery time?
Running on fumes is the dad default setting but it doesn't have to be permanent. You mentioned sleep is off - that's the first thing to fix. Everything else gets harder when you're not sleeping. What does your sleep situation actually look like right now?
This is me right now. Work is demanding, the house stuff never stops, and I'm constantly in this weird state where I'm not actually tired enough to sleep but too tired to function. It's like my body forgot what rest actually feels like.
The tired-all-the-time thing is real and it usually means something's out of balance. For me it was a combination of not enough sleep, too much stress, and not taking time for myself. I started the 5am run routine partly to get some time that's just mine before the day hits. Might sound counterintuitive but better sleep comes with some mental space.
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That heaviness you're describing hits different than just being tired. Might be worth talking to someone about it, even if the basics check out. I've been there and it helps.