Burnout is real and I'm in it

Jan 7·1 min read

What I'm dealing with:

50+ hour weeks at work
Two kids (8 and 5)
Trying to be present and helpful at home
Haven't slept well in months
Snapped at my kids twice this week over stupid stuff
Can't remember the last time I did something for myself

My manager wants me to take on another project. I want to say no but we're trying to save for a house down payment. Feels like I'm choosing between my family and my mental health. Anyone been here?

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Comments(6)

FFinn M.RegularJan 8

The 8 and 5 age gap is rough because they need completely different things. But the 5yo will catch up soon and life gets easier. I know that doesn't help right now though.

TTyler R.New DadJan 8

You're describing my life exactly and I'm gonna be honest, something has to give. You can't run 50 hour weeks and be fully present with two young kids. That's not burnout, that's actually impossible.

LLucasRegularJan 8

Can you cut back to 40 hours? I know that's not always an option but if it is, do it. Nothing is worth your health.

BBrandonNew DadJan 9

Look into therapy or at least talking to your doctor. Burnout isn't something you willpower your way through. Sometimes you need professional help to reset.

SSam T.RegularJan 9

Real talk, the 50 hour weeks and being fully present with young kids is the fantasy they sell you. Something has to be the priority and right now it sounds like everything is equally critical which means nothing gets your actual best.

JJason B.New DadJan 10

You might be burned out enough that small tweaks won't cut it. Consider whether you need a bigger life change. Different job, different schedule, something. Burnout at this level usually means your current setup is broken.