Day 30 without drinking. Started hitting the bottle pretty hard after our son was born and didn't realize how bad it got until my wife sat me down. I'm in an online support group for dads and it's been really helpful. Not gonna say it's been easy but I can actually remember stuff now and my anxiety is down like 70%. Still on the journey but feeling hopeful for the first time in a while.
The anxiety getting better is huge too and people don't talk about that connection enough. The drinking was probably managing anxiety which made you rely on it more. Dealing with actual anxiety now is harder short-term but better long-term.
Celebrating this with you man. 30 days is real. Keep going. Your son will remember the sober dad more than anything else.
30 days is huge man. Genuinely. The "I can actually remember stuff" part is real and matters more than people realize. You're building something here.
Dude I'm in that same online support group I think? Or one like it. The dad-specific ones hit different than regular AA meetings because people actually get the parenting part of the pressure. How are you finding it?
This is massive. The honesty with your wife, the support group, the actual follow-through. A lot of dads talk about getting help and don't actually do the work. You're doing the work.
This took guts to post. Respect. The "didn't realize how bad it got" is what gets a lot of people - it sneaks up. Glad your wife said something and glad you listened.
Seriously proud of you for recognizing it and doing something about it. A lot of dads don't get there. Your family is gonna notice the difference real soon.
30 days is huge man. The support group + actually remembering what your kids are doing is going to compound in ways that feel impossible right now. Keep going.
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How are your wife and kids responding to the change? Like are they noticing you're more present?
The anxiety improvement is real. Drinking was masking anxiety that then just gets worse when you sober up. Glad you found a support group that works for you. That's huge.