Depression hit different after kids

1w ago1 min read

Been dealing with depression on and off for years but becoming a dad really changed how it feels. Before I could just sleep it off or zone out with a game. Now I have two little people depending on me and I feel guilty every time I'm in a funk because they need me present. Started therapy again last month and honestly talking about the guilt and pressure has helped more than I expected. To anyone else struggling, you're not alone and getting help isn't letting your family down, it's actually the opposite.

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BBradRegular6d ago

The weight of providing and being present and being the one they look up to can be crushing sometimes. It's okay to not be okay. Make sure you're reaching out if you need help though.

TTim P.New Dad1w ago

Co-parenting three kids here and I hear you. Depression doesn't give you the luxury of just shutting down anymore. It forces you to figure out what actually helps because they need you functional.

RRick J.Regular1w ago

Yeah, the mental health piece hits different when you're responsible for tiny humans. You can't just check out the same way you used to, so you have to actually deal with it instead of avoiding it.

RRobertNew Dad1w ago

I'm new to this dad thing and already noticing how it messes with your head differently. You're carrying more weight now, you know? Glad you're talking about it though.

BBradRegular1w ago

Depression hits different when you're responsible for another human being. The stakes feel higher but you also have a reason to push through it. Have you talked to anyone professionally about it? Might help to have that support.

EEdRegular6d ago

This is real and I'm glad you're talking about it. A lot of us deal with this but don't say anything. Being a dad is amazing but it's also heavy sometimes. You're not alone in feeling this way.