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Depression hit hard after second kid was born

DanNew Dad

3d ago1 min read

Not gonna lie, I didn't expect this. Everyone talks about postpartum depression in moms but nobody tells you dads can get it too. I love my kids but I've been feeling empty and exhausted. Everything feels like a chore. Took me three months to admit something was wrong and talk to my doctor. Just started medication and started seeing a therapist. If you're struggling after becoming a dad please know you're not alone and it's not weakness to get help.

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RRexNew Dad2d ago

Man, this is so real and nobody talks about it. I went through something similar after my second. It felt weird admitting it because everyone expects you to just be happy. Glad you're putting it out there. Did you end up talking to someone about it?

MMarkNew Dad3d ago

Man, that takes guts to share. Postpartum depression in dads is real and it's not talked about enough. With two kids the overwhelm can hit different - glad you're opening up about it instead of keeping it bottled.

DDerek M.New Dad3d ago

Thanks for saying this out loud. Nobody prepared me for the emotional side of becoming a dad, let alone twice. What you're feeling is valid and you're not alone in it - have you talked to someone about it?

KKevinRegular3d ago

Thanks for saying this. I went through the same thing after our second and felt like I was losing my mind. Took me way too long to actually talk to someone about it. You're not alone in this and it doesn't make you weak. Have you considered talking to a therapist?

SSteveNew Dad3d ago

It's wild how invisible it is right? Everyone's focused on mom's recovery and dad's just expected to jump in and be fine. You're not alone in this.

CChris R.New Dad3d ago

Man, I really appreciate you putting this out there. The stigma around dad depression is real and it needs to change. Did anything specific help you start feeling better?

DDanny K.New Dad2d ago

Been there. It got better for me once I started being honest about how I was feeling. The shame piece was the hardest part to get past.

DDerek P.New Dad3d ago

Man this is important to hear. I've been there and nobody warned me either. Have you been able to talk to your doctor about it yet? That was the first real step for me.

DDanny K.New Dad3d ago

You're not alone in this at all. A lot of us go through it and just suffer quietly thinking we're supposed to be fine. Have you reached out to your doctor yet?

MMarcusNew Dad2d ago

This hits different. Nobody warns you that the hormones and stress can hit dads just as hard. Two kids is a big jump. Hang in there and please reach out if you need help.

DDerek P.New Dad2d ago

Real talk right here. The stress of two kids, sleep deprivation, and everything changing hits different when it's the second one. You know what's coming but it's still brutal.

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BBlake T.New Dad2d ago

Nobody talks about it but postpartum depression in dads is legit. I went through it after my second was born too. The shame part made it harder to admit. Glad you're sharing this.