Depression makes parenting feel impossible | DadHQ

Depression makes parenting feel impossible

1w ago1 min read

Been struggling with depression for a couple years now. Some days I can push through and be present for my kids. Other days I'm just going through the motions, feeling nothing, pretending I'm okay. My boys can tell something is off. I've been in therapy for 6 months but progress is slow. I'm scared they're going to remember dad as being checked out. Started medication last month so hoping that helps but wanted to connect with other dads going through this to know I'm not alone.

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MMatt W.Regular1w ago

Some days just surviving is enough, and that's okay. My daughter doesn't remember the rough mornings, she remembers when I show up. You're doing better than you think.

JJames H.Regular1w ago

Man, I really respect you for being honest about this. The fact that you're pushing through on the hard days shows your kids how much you care, even when your brain is working against you. Keep reaching out for help when you need it.

FFrank D.Regular1w ago

Two years is a long haul, brother. Have you got anyone you can lean on when it gets really heavy? My kid needs me present more than perfect, and I bet yours does too.

SSteve H.Regular1w ago

Real talk depression makes everything harder including parenting. Some days just showing up is enough. Have you talked to someone about it? I'm not in your situation but it sounds heavy.

DDerek M.New Dad1w ago

You're not alone in this even though it feels isolating. Some days just keeping them fed and safe is the win. Be gentle with yourself.

RRobertNew Dad1w ago

The fact that you're thinking about being present for your kids even when things are dark says something good about you. Have you looked into any support groups for dads dealing with mental health stuff? Might help to talk to people who get it.

JJayNew Dad1w ago

Depression is a real beast and it's not weakness. Getting help is the strong move. Your kids need you healthy more than they need you perfect. Please talk to your doctor if you haven't.