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Depression making it hard to be present with family

3w ago1 min read

I go through the motions - go to work, come home, eat dinner, put kids to bed - but I feel completely numb the whole time. My wife keeps asking what's wrong and I don't even know how to explain it. I love my family but I can't seem to feel it lately. Everything just feels gray and pointless. Haven't seen friends in months and honestly don't want to. This has been going on for like 6 months now and I'm running out of excuses.

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LLucasRegular3w ago

This hits different. The kids need you present more than they need you perfect. What you're describing is real and it matters that you're aware of it. My therapist told me that sometimes just naming the problem is the first step. You're going to get through this.

MMike P.New Dad3w ago

Hey man, I hear you. I've been dealing with some of this stuff too and finally started therapy a couple months ago. It's tough to admit that going through the motions isn't enough, but it's actually a good sign that you're recognizing it. Have you thought about talking to someone?

PPatrick W.Regular3w ago

Twin girls here and I've been in that fog before. It's hard to be the dad you want to be when depression has you in its grip. Please reach out to someone, even if it's just your wife about how bad it really is.

DDean F.Regular3w ago

That numbness is real and it sucks, man. I'd encourage you to talk to someone about this - a therapist or your doctor. Your family needs you present, but you need to take care of yourself first.

TTerry O.Regular3w ago

Going through the motions is exhausting. Have you thought about what might help you feel something again, even something small? Sometimes it takes professional help to break that cycle.

RRyan P.New Dad3w ago

I struggle with this too. Some days Storytime Sunday is the only time I really feel connected to my kids. When the depression creeps in, those moments are what pull me back. Have you looked into any support options? Even just talking to someone can help break that cycle.