Genuinely asking. My wife's always like 'we need to communicate' and I'm just like... I already told you I'm fine? Why do I need to explain my emotions for 45 minutes? I get that she's trying to help but it makes me more anxious, not less. Am I broken or is this normal? How do you guys handle this without feeling like you're being interrogated?
I started writing stuff down instead of trying to talk about it. Turns out that works better for me and my wife actually prefers knowing what's going on in my head this way. Might be worth trying.
Nothing wrong with that. Some people process internally and that's fine. Just make sure you're not using it as an excuse to avoid actual issues though.
Same here. My therapist told me I actually do communicate, just not always with words. It helped me understand that there are different ways to do it and mine just isn't sitting around talking about emotions.
The classic 'we need to communicate' conversation. Have you tried telling her specifically what kind of communication works for you? Because that's a conversation too, just a different one.
You're not alone. I think a lot of guys just communicate differently. Like I show up for my kids, I'm present, but I don't need to narrate all my feelings about it every time. My wife gets it now after I explained it that way.
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I feel this in my bones dude. I think the key is finding a middle ground where she gets enough information to feel connected and you don't feel drained by constant emotional processing.