Feel like I'm failing my kids because of my depression

Aug 7·1 min read

Been a dad for 4 years and the last year has been brutal. Some days I can barely get out of bed and my kids are watching movies all day while I lay there. My 6 year old asked me why I'm always sad and I didn't know what to say. I know logically this is the illness talking but I feel like I'm ruining them. Started seeing someone about this but the guilt is almost worse than the depression itself. Anyone else struggle with this?

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BBrandonRegularAug 9

You're describing something real and serious. Getting out of bed on a hard day IS parenting. But please talk to someone - a doctor, therapist, or your wife about what you're going through. You don't have to white-knuckle through this alone.

GGarrett M.New DadAug 8

First, you're not failing your kids. Depression is lying to you about that. I've been there and some days just getting out of bed IS winning. Have you talked to your doctor or a therapist? There's no shame in getting help, man. Your kids need you healthy.

EEvan M.RegularAug 8

The fact that you care this much about your kids shows you're not failing them. Depression is a real medical thing, not a character flaw. Please get some professional help - therapist, doctor, whoever. You deserve to feel better.

CChris M.RegularAug 8

Four years of parenting and then depression hits hard is brutal. But here's the thing - your kids would rather have you here and struggling than absent and 'fine'. Reach out to someone today. Even just calling your doctor is a win.