Work is stressful, I feel like I'm a mediocre dad, my relationship with my wife is rocky, and I just feel tired all the time. Some days I wake up and immediately feel this weight. I'm not suicidal or anything but I don't feel like myself anymore. I don't want to burden my family with how I'm actually feeling. Anyone else been here? How did you get out of it?
You're carrying a lot. One thing that helped me was giving myself permission to be decent at some things instead of great at everything. I'm a good dad, mediocre at work stuff, working on the marriage. That's life.
Mediocre dad is literally just dad. We all feel like we're bombing it half the time. Work stress makes everything harder. Is there anything you can cut back on or delegate to get some breathing room?
The feeling like you're failing at everything sounds like depression talking not reality talking. Might be worth getting that checked out. I was in that headspace and once I started treating it, everything got easier including being a better dad.
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You're not failing. You're a dad thinking about this stuff which means you care. The rocky marriage thing is real though. That one affects how you feel about the other stuff. Have you guys thought about counseling? Even a few sessions can help.