Left the family home three months ago and I'm in this little one bedroom. The place is quiet and it's making my anxiety worse. I don't sleep well, I'm drinking too much coffee and probably too much beer on the weekends. My buddies are great but they're all married with families so I don't see them much. Just feeling really isolated right now and I'm not sure how to get out of this funk.
Man, three months is still pretty fresh. That quiet is going to feel heavy for a while. Have you been able to get your kids over there yet, or is that still getting worked out? Sometimes having them there changes the energy of the place, gives it purpose.
The quiet after chaos is rough. Maybe that's actually a sign to get out more? New parks, coffee shops, anywhere people are. Sounds like you need some community.
Loneliness after leaving is rough. When you get your kids for overnights, that'll help fill the space, but in the meantime get out of that apartment. Join a rec league, find a coffee shop that becomes your spot, something. Sitting alone doesn't heal anything.
The silence hits different when you're used to having a full house. I'd suggest finding some regular things to do, even if it's just meeting friends or getting into a hobby. Staying home alone too much with those thoughts is a killer.
Three months is still early. That quiet apartment feeling does fade a bit, but yeah, that loneliness hits different when you're not used to it. Have you been able to spend time with the kids?
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That's a hard transition no matter what brought you to it. One bedroom feels small when you're by yourself. Have you thought about getting a roommate or joining something like a rec league?