Feeling lonely even though I'm never alone

3w ago·1 min read

This is weird to say but I feel like nobody really gets me. I'm surrounded by kids and my wife all day but I don't have real friendships where I can just be myself and talk about what I'm actually thinking. Most dad groups feel superficial. I miss having guys I could be honest with. Started going to the gym early just to get some headspace. Is this normal or should I be more concerned about it? Feels like something's missing.

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TTrevorRegular3w ago

I get this completely. You're physically never alone but there's this weird isolation that happens when you're the one always problem-solving and managing everything. Your wife probably gets it but she's in the same boat, you know?

CChristopherNew Dad3w ago

Have you been able to connect with other dads about this stuff? Sometimes just talking to guys who are in the same situation helps break that feeling. Not advice just commiseration but it matters.

BBrandonNew Dad3w ago

I get it man. Coaching and being around my kids all the time is amazing but it's not the same as having someone who actually gets you. Have you thought about finding a dad group or something? Changed things for me.

VVincentNew Dad3w ago

That's real and it's not weird at all. Being around people 24/7 but feeling alone is tough. With three kids and custody stuff I had to be intentional about finding my people. Might help to reach out to one person.

SSean M.New Dad3w ago

The loneliness despite constant company is real and it's not weird to say it. I think dads especially don't talk about this enough. Everyone assumes we're fine because we're 'keeping everything running' but that's isolating in its own way.