Feeling lonely even with a full house

Aug 4·1 min read

Got three kids, married, always got someone around and somehow I still feel incredibly alone. Like nobody really sees me, they just see what I do for them. Wife's exhausted, kids need stuff constantly, and I can't remember the last time I had a conversation that wasn't about logistics. Trying to get to the gym more for some alone time but even that feels like I'm being selfish. Anyone else feel this way? How do you climb out of it?

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JJasonRegularAug 5

This hits different. I've got three kids and two dogs running around and I still get those moments where I feel completely isolated. Wonder if it's just the constant noise and chaos that makes you forget to actually connect with anyone on a real level.

BBrian M.RegularAug 5

Man, I feel this. Four kids, constantly busy, but yeah there's this weird empty feeling sometimes. Like you're surrounded but nobody really gets what's going on in your head. Have you tried just talking to your wife about it? Sometimes the people closest to us don't realize we're struggling.

CChris M.RegularAug 6

Have you thought about getting some time just for yourself? Even like an hour a week to do something that's just yours. I found that when I was constantly in reactive mode with my kids I lost myself a bit. Might be worth exploring that angle.