Feeling really lonely despite having two kids

3w ago·1 min read

Not sure if this is normal or if something's wrong with me. I love my kids but I don't have anyone to talk to about adult stuff. My ex and I aren't friends, don't really hang out with other dads, my old friends are all coupled up. Some nights after the kids are asleep I just sit there and feel kind of empty. Been thinking about finding a therapist just to have someone to talk to. Does anyone else get like this or am I the only one?

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BBrandon H.Regular2w ago

This is real and you're not alone. Being with your kids all the time is different from having adult connection and that loneliness is valid. Have you thought about joining something, like a dad group or even just a regular activity where you see the same adults? It helps.

PPhil M.Regular3w ago

Totally normal but also something worth taking seriously. I started doing some volunteer coaching and it gave me that adult community I was missing. You don't have to be perfect all the time. Talk to someone if it keeps weighing on you.

PPedroRegular3w ago

You can love your kids completely and still feel isolated. Those aren't contradictory things. What kind of stuff are you into? Sometimes finding your people around a hobby or interest helps break the loneliness cycle.

MMason T.New Dad3w ago

Absolutely normal. Parenting can be isolating even when you're around people constantly. Consider reaching out to a friend just to grab coffee or shoot hoops or something. Sometimes it takes intentional effort to fight that feeling.