Finally got diagnosed with ADHD at 39

3w ago·1 min read

Explains SO MUCH about why parenting feels like chaos. I thought I was just bad at follow-through and organization but apparently I've been undiagnosed ADHD my whole life. Started meds last week and it's like someone turned on the lights. I can actually sit with my 7yo for homework help without getting frustrated after 30 seconds. Not saying it's a cure-all but I feel less like a failure already. Wondering if any of you dealt with this later in life?

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PPete Y.Regular3w ago

This hits so hard. I'm 42 and pretty sure I have it too but like... getting diagnosed with kids and a full-time job feels impossible? How long was your process?

EEd P.Regular3w ago

I got diagnosed at 37 and it genuinely reframed everything about my parenting struggles. Like suddenly the fact that I can't keep a consistent bedtime routine or remember to pack lunches the night before isn't a character flaw, it's just my brain being wired different. Game changer.

SSam P.Regular3w ago

Just wait until you realize how much of your co-parenting conflict might have been ADHD-related communication issues. That's a whole other rabbit hole but also kind of freeing to understand.

AAndy S.Regular3w ago

One week in on meds - how's that going? I'm asking because ADHD dads are either like 'this is life changing' or 'meh' after a week and I'm curious where you're landing.

BBob M.Regular3w ago

Congrats on the diagnosis dude. That's actually a huge deal and explains so much about the constant mental load of parenting when your brain's already running on hard mode.