Finally had the conversation with my wife

2w ago·1 min read

I told her I think I have depression. Not just general stress or dad fatigue, but like actual depression that's been going on for almost a year. She cried, asked why I didn't tell her sooner, and then we made an appointment with my doctor for next week. It felt terrifying but also like I took off a backpack I've been wearing forever. Not fixed obviously but feels like at least we're doing something about it instead of me just white-knuckling through every day.

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EEd R.Regular2w ago

Getting professional help next? That year of suffering privately is rough. A therapist can help you actually sort through what's causing it instead of just white-knuckling through each day.

SShane K.New Dad1w ago

the 'why didn't you tell me sooner' response is love. she's not mad at you, she's mad she couldn't help when you needed it. You just gave her the chance to be there. That's good for both of you.

NNoah B.New Dad1w ago

This is what partnership actually is. Not her fixing it, just her knowing and helping carry it. Glad you got there.

RRon D.New Dad1w ago

She cried because she loves you and wants to help. That's the response you want. Depression is isolation, and you just let her back in. That conversation was brave as hell.

MMarvin T.Regular1w ago

Real talk: telling your partner about depression might be the hardest part. Everything after that gets easier because you're not carrying it alone anymore. Good on you for opening up.