Been through 3 therapists in the past 2 years and finally found someone who doesn't try to fix everything in one session or tell me "just be present for your kids." She's a woman, surprisingly, but she specifically works with dads dealing with depression and burnout. We're in Denver if anyone's local. First session I actually cried talking about stuff. Feels good? Weird? Both?
Finding a good therapist is like finding a good mechanic—90% is them actually listening instead of running through a script. Glad you landed on someone that works.
The 'just be present' line is so useless. Like yeah no shit, that's the goal, but what do I DO about the anxiety spirals at 3am? Glad she actually engages with the real stuff.
the fact that she doesn't try to fix everything in one session is actually the sign you found the right one. therapy takes time. bad therapists want quick wins. she's building something real with you.
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It's interesting you mention she's a woman—a lot of guys have better luck with female therapists because they don't default to the 'tough it out' mentality. Whatever works, works.