Had a really good week and wanted to share

Dec 191 min read

My 7yo's soccer game was last Saturday and instead of sitting on the sideline on my phone like usual, I actually watched the whole thing and cheered loud and embarrassed him lol. But we had such a good car ride home talking about the goals he scored, and it made me realize I've been kind of checked out for a while. Started going to therapy specifically about staying present and it's actually working. Small win but felt good to notice it.

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BBrian L.RegularDec 19

Putting down the phone hits different when you realize how fast they grow. 7 is still young but honestly the window closes quick. Keep going with this.

TTom R.RegularDec 19

The embarrassment thing is so real but also only lasts like 5 seconds before they're just happy you're there. I did the same at my daughter's dance recital last month and she kept looking over to see if I was watching. That look was worth ditching the phone.

GGene K.RegularDec 21

Yo did you just casually solve the dad-phone problem in one post? Because yeah, actually being present slaps. My 7yo literally said 'thanks for watching me' after I did this at his game and I almost cried.

BByron S.RegularDec 19

This is everything dude. The fact that you caught yourself doing the phone thing and chose differently - that's the real win. Your son might act embarrassed but he's gonna remember you cheering loud way more than if you'd been scrolling.

TTom E.RegularDec 20

Good for you man. Seriously. It's the small pivots that change everything with our kids.

KKenny W.RegularDec 20

Real talk - I've been doing this too. The phone thing is so easy to fall into but you just unlocked something. How often you planning to make this the norm?

PPaul M.RegularDec 20

Did you notice a difference in how he played knowing you were actually watching? Sometimes kids try harder when they know someone cares enough to actually pay attention.

MMark A.RegularDec 20

This is huge dude. That presence stuff matters way more than we think. Glad you got to embarrass him properly lol

TTony V.RegularDec 20

needed to read this today honestly. I've been glued to my phone during my kids' activities telling myself I'm 'still present' but clearly I'm not. Thanks for the reality check.