How do you make friends as an adult with depression

20h ago·1 min read

I'm 38 and feel like I have no real friends left. Most of my buddies moved away over the years and I didn't make the effort to stay close because of my depression. Now I'm isolated and it's making everything worse. When I do try to go out or join something, the anxiety is unbearable. Feels like everyone already has their group and doesn't need me. Anyone else been here? How did you actually build connections when your brain is working against you?

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TTobias K.Regularjust now

38 is still young man. I'm in Portland and I've found that joining activity-based groups helps more than trying to make friends the traditional way. Running club, board game meetups, dad groups... you're doing something together so it takes pressure off.

MMarcus T.New Dad20h ago

The depression is telling you that reaching out is too hard, but it's worth pushing back on that. Getting outside with your kid or joining something like a parents group can be a good low-pressure way to build connections again.

AAndy S.Regular19h ago

Depression makes staying connected feel impossible, but getting outdoors even for a short walk can help clear your head. Sometimes doing activities beats trying to "make friends" - the connections happen naturally when you're out there.

BBrandon H.New Dad7h ago

Have you looked into dad groups online or local? There's a bunch of us dealing with the same thing - moved for work, kids took priority for years, suddenly you look up and your friend group is gone. You're not alone in this.

RRob H.Regular5h ago

Depression makes you feel like you're the problem but you're not. Honestly the first step might be talking to someone professional about the depression stuff. Once you're in a better headspace, friendships follow more naturally.