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Just booked a solo overnight trip and my brain won't shut up about it

Jan 8·1 min read

I'm going fishing in Lake Tahoe next month for just one night - something I used to do all the time before kids. Wife is totally supportive. But my anxiety is already running scenarios like "what if something happens to one of them" or "am I being selfish" or "they'll be fine without me for 24 hours why am I even thinking about this". Anyone else struggle with guilt about taking time for yourself?

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Comments(5)

SSam K.New DadJan 10

The lying in bed at night replaying 'what-ifs' is the worst part. But have you considered that maybe you NEED this more than you're admitting to yourself?

PPaul M.RegularJan 10

That's awesome that you're doing this. The anxiety before you go is totally normal, especially going solo after not doing it for a while. But that first night out is going to feel so good.

MMarcus W.RegularJan 11

Your brain is literally just out of practice. You used to do this all the time so it WAS normal for you once. That feeling of "what am I doing leaving" fades fast once you're on the water.

LLance K.RegularJan 10

I get this exact thing. Had the same guilt spirals before my first solo trip. Went anyway. Came back more patient and present than I'd been in months. Do it.

SSean P.New DadJan 11

Lake Tahoe solo fishing trip sounds incredible. Your family will be fine for one night. And honestly your kids need to see you do things you love.