This might sound weird but I've never felt more alone. Have a wife, two kids, good job, but I feel like nobody really knows me. Can't talk to the guys at work about real stuff. My dad and I were never close so that's not an option. Even my wife doesn't get some of the stuff I'm dealing with internally. Anyone else experience this? Looking for advice on how to build actual meaningful connections.
This hits hard because it sounds like you're checking all the boxes but nobody's checking in on YOU. Marriage and kids are great but if you're not making time for yourself or real conversations, the loneliness creeps in. Do something just for you this week.
Been there. Realized I was so focused on being a good husband and dad that I forgot to be a person. Started making small time for my own stuff and it helped more than I expected. Even just one night a week doing something solo.
It's not weird at all. Sometimes having all the external boxes checked just makes the internal emptiness louder. Good job and family are great but they don't automatically fill the void if you've lost sight of yourself. What did you used to do for you before all this?
Not weird at all. I think a lot of us experience this. The job, the kids, the wife - it all kind of happens to you and around you but you're not really connecting with any of it or yourself. Have you thought about talking to your wife about how you're feeling? That's usually the first step for me.
The weird part about marriage and kids is you're constantly surrounded but still completely alone sometimes. Have you had a real conversation with your wife about feeling this way? Not blaming her, just saying she might not know you're struggling.
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I get this more than I want to admit. Having all the pieces that look like success on paper but still feeling hollow inside is rough. For me it helped to actually talk to someone, like a therapist. There's something about parenting that can isolate you even when you're surrounded by people.