Loneliness even though I'm surrounded by people

May 3·1 min read

This might sound weird but I feel lonely all the time even though I have a wife, two kids, and we're always doing family stuff. I don't really have friends anymore, all my buddies kind of drifted away once I had kids. Work is isolating and I just feel disconnected from everyone. My therapist says it's about quality connections not quantity but I'm struggling to find any real ones. Anyone figured out how to build adult friendships as a dad?

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KKevinNew DadMay 5

This hits different. It's like you can be physically surrounded by your family but still be in your own world. Have you considered talking to someone about it? Sometimes it helps to get professional perspective.

CChris R.RegularMay 4

I get this completely. Being surrounded by people doesn't automatically mean you feel connected to them. Sometimes the loneliness is loudest when everyone else is in the room. Have you talked to your wife about feeling this way?

RRexRegularMay 4

Doesn't sound weird at all. Two kids, a spouse, constant noise and demands - sometimes that's exactly when loneliness hits hardest because nobody really knows what's going on inside your head. You're not alone in this.