Loneliness hit different after becoming a dad

I love my family more than anything but I feel so alone. My old friends without kids don't get why I can't just go out anymore. The friends I have who are dads, we're all too exhausted to actually hang out. I'm with my family 24/7 but I don't have real conversations with other adults much. Just logistics and kid stuff. My wife is amazing but she's not my therapist and I don't want to dump all my stuff on her. Anyone found a way through this?