Don't get me wrong, I love my family but I feel like I've lost my friendships. All my buddies are either childless and doing their thing or we just text occasionally about nothing. I spend most evenings with my wife and kids, which is great, but I miss having actual guy friends to talk to about real stuff. Started going to a local running group and it's helping but I just wanted to put this out there.
I hear you on this one. Between coaching and the kids' schedules, my friendships took a real hit too. But I started making it a point to at least text the guys weekly, even if it's just quick check-ins. Small stuff helps.
The trails help me stay connected with people while being out with the kids. Maybe there's an activity you and your buddies could do together with the family sometimes? Not the same as before, but it's something.
This hits hard. Being a new dad, I thought it would be different but my crew basically disappeared once the baby arrived. Everyone's moving on with their lives and I'm over here at 3am thinking about how I haven't had a real conversation with an adult in weeks.
Have you tried connecting with other dads in your area? I'm at practice 4 nights a week and honestly those sideline conversations with other sports parents have become my lifeline. Not the same as old friendships but it helps you realize you're not alone in this.
Man, I feel this in my soul. I've got three under five and I literally can't remember the last time I hung out with anyone who doesn't need a diaper change. My buddies got tired of me canceling on them, so now they don't even ask. It's lonely even when you're surrounded by people who need you 24/7.
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This hits hard because it's real. My sleep deprivation makes me feel pretty isolated too, but I'm finding that even 30 minutes with a buddy here and there keeps me sane. Your friendships are worth protecting.