I have my kids every other weekend and when they're with their mom I just feel completely empty. I try to hang out with friends but it doesn't help. I end up just scrolling on my phone till bedtime. It's been like this for 2 years since the separation and I'm starting to think I need to talk to someone about it. Is this normal or am I being pathetic?
I get this. Every other weekend is tough because you go from dad mode to nothing mode instantly. Maybe build a routine for those other weekends so you're not just staring at the walls. Your kids need you to be okay too.
Man, I get this. Those off-weekends hit different when you're used to the chaos. Have you thought about picking up a hobby or something that actually engages your brain instead of just hanging out? Coffee shop runs and meal prepping helped me feel less empty on my solo time.
The emptiness is real but it does get easier. When I'm not with my son those nights hit hard too, but I've learned leaning into it instead of fighting it helps. Maybe try something solo you actually enjoy rather than forcing social stuff.
The loneliness of partial custody is something people don't talk about enough. You're not weak for feeling empty. That space where your kids should be is genuinely painful. Talk to someone about it.
That loneliness can turn into something darker if you don't address it. Consider whether you need to talk to a therapist or if there's a dad group in your area. This is real stuff.
That empty feeling is real. I started filling those weekends with stuff - grilling, working on projects, seeing friends. Still not the same but it helps with the quiet.
The loneliness hits hard but you're not alone in feeling this way. A lot of us guys struggle when we don't have the kids around. Have you tried connecting with other dads in your situation?
I feel this in my bones man. Every other weekend is rough. The silence hits different when you're used to being a full time dad. Have you talked to your ex about maybe adjusting the schedule or is that not possible?
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That empty feeling is real and it hits hard. Have you tried getting outside those weekends? Hiking, sports league, anything to keep your mind and body moving? Sitting in the quiet just amplifies it.