My wife and kids keep me busy but I feel like I don't have real friendships anymore. All my buddies have kind of drifted and I don't know how to rebuild that. I work from home and most days the only adult I talk to is my wife. Been thinking about joining something, maybe a running group or a gym, just to be around people. Does anyone else feel this way?
The buddy drift is real. What's helped me is finding activities the kids can do while I'm doing my thing - like I grill during their outdoor play time and sometimes other dads show up. Doesn't replace old friendships but it's something.
Man, I feel this. Once you're in full dad mode with three kids it's tough to maintain those friendships. Try joining a dad group or something at your kids' school - sounds weird but I've actually met some solid guys that way who get it.
Real talk, this loneliness is legit and doesn't get talked about enough. You're surrounded by people but you're missing adult connection. Can you carve out even one night a month for something with the guys?
This hits different when you have kids. You go from seeing your buddies whenever to basically never seeing them. I've been trying to at least do a monthly thing with one friend just to keep something alive.
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Co-parenting here but same feeling sometimes. You've got to be intentional about friendships as a dad. They don't just happen anymore. Maybe invite one buddy to do something with your family even? Soccer or a hike?
Man I feel this in my bones. Been there. What helped me was finding other dads who got it. Like through my kids' activities or sports. Different vibe than old friends but real nonetheless.