Im 3 sessions in and I feel like Im not making progress. The therapist keeps asking me questions instead of telling me how to fix my depression. I get that its supposed to be collaborative or whatever but I just want someone to give me answers. Should I try a different therapist or am I expecting too much too soon? This is getting expensive and I dont want to waste money if its not working.
Three sessions is really early to judge if it's working. I've heard it takes people months to feel like they're getting anywhere. Give it more time before you bail.
I felt the exact same way my first couple sessions. Felt like I was paying someone to ask me stuff I already knew. Stuck it out and eventually something clicked. Don't give up yet.
The questioning thing is kind of the whole point though. They're not there to give you answers, they're trying to help you find them yourself. Annoying but that's therapy.
The questions seem pointless at first but that's literally the process. Your therapist is helping you unpack stuff you've been carrying for years. It takes time. If after a month you still hate it, maybe try someone else. But three sessions is nothing yet.
I had the same feeling after my first few sessions. Felt like nothing was happening. Then somewhere around week 6 it clicked and I realized I was actually changing how I handled stuff. Don't bail yet, you're still in the getting-to-know-the-therapist phase.
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Three sessions is too early to judge. Therapy feels weird at first because you're basically paying someone to make you uncomfortable by asking hard questions. Stick with it through at least 8-10 sessions before deciding. Give your brain time to actually process things.
Keep going. The doubt is normal but that's also your brain resisting change. Therapy works when you stick with it. I was ready to quit too but my therapist warned me about that exact thing and I'm glad I listened.