Anyone else just constantly worried about everything even though you know worrying won't change anything? I'm anxious about my job, money, my kids' health, their future, literally everything. My therapist keeps telling me to focus on what I can control but my brain just won't let it go. Some days I feel fine and other days I'm a mess. It's exhausting.
This is the hardest part of parenting honestly. You can control so much less than you want to. I had to learn to focus on what I actually can control like making sure I'm present and doing my best with the decisions I do get to make.
I get this hard. The money and job stuff especially when you're WFH and the work/dad life blurs together. Therapy helped me realize I can only control my effort, not the outcome.
Being a co-parent I worry about stuff during my off weeks constantly. Had to learn that checking in with my kids' mom helps me let go instead of spiraling.
That's why I vacuum daily man. It's the one thing in my life that actually stays done and under control. Everything else with three kids is chaos but that vacuum gives me peace.
Yeah I do this constantly. My therapist finally told me that I'm just wasting energy on stuff I can't control anyway. Easier said than done but at least naming it helped me recognize when I'm doing it.
You're not alone in this. The trick is trying to recognize when you're spiraling and just... stop. Easier said than done but gets better with practice.
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Every single day dude. I worry about stuff that probably won't even happen. With three kids the anxiety can spiral pretty quick if you let it. Started doing some breathing exercises before bed and it actually helps.