Don't get me wrong, I love my kids and my wife, but some days I feel incredibly alone. Everyone talks about how great fatherhood is but nobody mentions the isolation. Can't really hang out with my buddies anymore. Too tired to maintain those friendships. Wife is great but she has her own stuff. Feels like I'm just going through the motions most days. Anyone else feel this way or is it just me?
Yeah man I get this. Even though I'm with my kids most of the time and love it, there are these moments where you feel like nobody really gets what you're going through. It's a weird kind of lonely that's hard to explain to people.
Man, I feel this. Nobody talks about the quiet moments where you're surrounded by people you love but still feel disconnected. You're definitely not alone in feeling alone, if that makes sense.
Co-parenting taught me that loneliness hits different when you're splitting time between two homes. Therapy helped me realize it's okay to admit that love and loneliness can exist at the same time.
Not alone in feeling alone if that makes sense. A lot of us go through this and nobody really talks about it. Have you thought about finding a dad group or something just to be around other people going through similar stuff?
I started running at 5am partly just to have some time to myself. It's not about the exercise really, it's about having space to process everything. Parenting is isolating sometimes even when you're surrounded by people. Have you found anything that helps?
The loneliness is real even when you're not alone. Some days I feel like I'm in a crowd but completely isolated. Thank you for saying this out loud because I thought it was just me.
This right here. I feel this so hard. You're surrounded by people but there's this weird void that nobody talks about. Like you're the support system but nobody's checking if you're okay.
This hits different. I'm co-parenting and even with another person in the picture I still feel that sometimes. Like everyone assumes you've got it all figured out because you're a dad. Thanks for being real about it.
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Have you found anything that helps break that feeling? Sometimes I go to the park with my kid just to be around other dads but we all just stand there on our phones. Need better ways to actually connect.