You think having a wife and kids means you're never alone but man the loneliness is real. My wife is burnt out from the kids so we don't really connect anymore. My friends don't have kids so they don't get why I can't just come hang out. My coworkers don't know this side of me. I'm surrounded by people who depend on me and I've never felt more isolated. Just needed to say it somewhere. Anyone else?
This is the hard part nobody talks about. Being present with the kids is one thing, but you still need to be present with your wife too. Both are exhausting but both matter.
The disconnect with your wife is tough man. Have you tried just telling her that directly? Sometimes burnt out parents need to hear that their partner is lonely too before anything can shift.
That loneliness hits even when the house is full. I vacuum every single day just to have something that's mine, something I can control. Might sound weird but it helps.
If you can, find someone to help you with this. Preferably a professional. You don't deserve to feel this way. If you're connected with yourself, you'll be able to connect with others and those that are most important to you. Trust me, this can have a serious on your family and relationship with your wife.
Good luck and thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this.
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If you can, find someone to help you with this. Preferably a professional. You don't deserve to feel this way. If you're connected with yourself, you'll be able to connect with others and those that are most important to you. Trust me, this can have a serious on your family and relationship with your wife.
Good luck and thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this.