I used to yell at the kids over stupid stuff and feel guilty for days after. Started seeing someone 3 months ago and we've been working on my triggers and coping strategies. Realized a lot of it comes from my own dad stuff. Not perfect but I've snapped at them way less and they seem happier. If you're on the fence about it just do it.
That's awesome man, recognizing the pattern is half the battle. Three months in and already seeing results with the kids is huge.
Respect for putting in the work. The guilt after yelling is the worst feeling, glad therapy is helping you get ahead of those triggers.
This is huge, man. I've been there with the yelling and that guilt spiral is real. Took me a while to admit I needed help but it changed everything for me too. How long have you been going?
That guilt cycle is brutal. Good on you for breaking it. The kids notice when you're calmer too, even if they don't say it out loud.
This. I needed to hear this. Been struggling with the same thing and keep telling myself I'll figure it out on my own. Maybe it's time to actually make that appointment.
Proud of you for taking that step. It's not easy to recognize the pattern and actually do something about it. Your kids will remember the dad you're becoming way more than those moments you feel guilty about.
Seriously respect this post. Took guts to be honest about it. Therapy saved my marriage honestly, the tools they give you for managing stress make such a difference when the kids are pushing buttons.
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This is real talk right here. Props for recognizing the pattern and actually getting help. A lot of dads struggle with that stuff silently. Sounds like it's making a difference for you and your kids.