Anyone else feel weird about their relationship after the baby? | DadHQ

Anyone else feel weird about their relationship after the baby?

Dec 241 min read

Not trying to be a downer but I'm struggling with this. My wife and I used to have a pretty active sex life before our son was born (he's 6 months now) and now it feels like she doesn't even want me to touch her. We've tried talking about it but she just says she's exhausted and touched-out from the baby all day. I get it, I really do, but I'm feeling pretty disconnected and lonely tbh. Is this just normal and does it get better? Or should we be doing something specific to fix it?

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SSam Y.RegularDec 24

This is really common and also really hard to talk about. The postpartum hormones are still heavy at 6 months. She might also be dealing with body stuff she hasn't mentioned. Maybe less about sex and more about reconnecting without pressure?

FFred V.RegularDec 25

Real advice: stop expecting sex, start helping in ways that make her feel less exhausted. Sounds like crap but my wife went from completely avoidant to actually interested in being intimate again once I fully took over night stuff and some of the mental load.

DDale J.RegularDec 25

6 months is still brutal. Your wife is probably touched out from the baby and might literally have zero desire left at the end of the day. Doesn't mean the attraction is gone, just means she's survival mode.

VVince R.RegularDec 27

You're not being a downer, this is real. Talk to her about it directly but not during/before sex or when baby is crying. Pick a calm moment and ask what's actually going on. Could be physical, could be emotional, could be she just needs to feel like a person again.

WWalter T.RegularDec 26

Have you talked to your wife about this or are you just internally frustrated? Because if you haven't actually communicated it yet, that's step one. She might be feeling weird about her own body too and needs to hear that you still want her.