Maybe I'm messed up but at 2 months in I still don't feel that magical connection everyone talks about. She's beautiful and I want to protect her, but I don't feel like... obsessed? Obsessed? I dunno. I love my wife and that hit differently - immediate, obvious. This feels like I'm going through motions. Should I be worried or is this normal development?
You care about protecting her and that's the actual foundation. The obsession stuff comes later when they have personalities and opinions. You're exactly where you should be
You're not messed up. That 'magical connection' thing is honestly overstated. Some dads feel it immediately, some take weeks or months. You already have the protective instinct which is like 80% of the job
"not obsessed" might actually be healthy. The parents talking about being obsessed are sleep-deprived and running on hormones/adrenaline. Your baseline sounds more sustainable
Honest question - are you getting time alone with her or is it mostly passing her off? I didn't feel connected until I was actually doing stuff with my newborn, not just being in the same room
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Two months in with my daughter and I felt the same way. I was waiting for some movie moment that never came. Then one day around month 4 she actually tracked my face across a room and smiled and suddenly it clicked. Not magical, just... real