Asking for real advice on bonding with newborn

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3w ago1 min read

My wife does basically everything right now since she's breastfeeding and I feel like I'm just watching. I do diaper changes and sometimes hold him but I don't feel that instant connection everyone talks about. Is that normal? I want to bond with him but it feels awkward when he just cries or sleeps. My brother said once he was a few months old it got easier but I'm wondering if I'm doing something wrong. Should I be doing more specific stuff to connect?

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JJasonRegular3w ago

Dude, I felt this hard at first. Turns out the best bonding for me came during those middle of the night bottle feeds when it was just me and my son. Give it time, you're already doing great.

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MMarcus L.Regular3w ago

The bonding happens in those little moments you're already doing. Diaper changes, feeding when you can, late night walks to let mom sleep. Twin dad here and I learned quick that presence matters more than perfection.

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BBrandonRegular3w ago

You're not just watching, you're building the foundation. Once breastfeeding wraps up you'll get your chance to really take the lead, but holding him and being present now matters way more than you think.

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