Our son is finally here and I love him so much it's almost scary. But I'm seriously paranoid about everything. His head feels weird when I hold him, his breathing sounds different sometimes, and I keep checking if he's still breathing while he sleeps. My wife says I need to relax but how do you just relax with a tiny human that depends on you?
That weird feeling in his head is totally normal, it's just the soft spot. Every new dad freaks out about this but babies are way more resilient than you think. You're not going to break him by holding him.
The paranoia kicks in hard those first couple weeks, man. I was the same way. Just take a breath, support his head and neck like they told you, and trust your instincts. You're doing better than you think.
Dude, you're not going to break him. I promise. That fear is actually a sign you're going to be a great dad. Just support your wife, change diapers, and let yourself be tired for a bit. My diaper bag is packed with literally everything because I was terrified too at first, but you learn fast.
Night 4 is still the haze zone. Congrats on your son though! The paranoia fades once you realize babies are way tougher than they seem. Give yourself some grace here.
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That terror you're feeling right now? Hold onto that. It means you actually care about getting this right. Two days in and you're already thinking about what could go wrong, which means you're already doing it right. The breaking him fear is universal. You won't.