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Baby only wants mom for feeding - how do I help without feeling useless?

RonRegular

1w ago·1 min read

Since we're exclusively breastfeeding I feel like I'm just the diaper changing guy. My wife is amazing but she's getting burned out and I want to actually contribute more. I've tried bottle feeding pumped milk but he prefers the breast. Feeling pretty helpless here. What are some things I can actually do to lighten her load and bond with him at the same time?

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CChris M.Regular1w ago

This is so normal and it passes. My advice: stop thinking of it as being second fiddle and start thinking of diaper changes and baths as your special time with your kid. That's your window to be the calm, fun parent while mom's doing the feeding grind.

MMikeRegular1w ago

Have you tried bottle feeding with pumped milk? Even just for one feeding a day it lets you have that same bonding experience. Plus your wife gets a break and you actually get to feed your baby. Everyone wins.

MMike R.Regular1w ago

You're not useless at all man. I remember feeling the exact same way those first few months. But you're building a bond during those diaper changes and late night bottle times. Just wait until they get older and start preferring you for other stuff.