Bonding with a baby is harder than I thought

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1d ago1 min read

I expected to look at my newborn and just feel this instant overwhelming love. Honestly it's been more complicated than that. The first few weeks I felt kinda detached because he's so fragile and I don't know how to hold him without freaking out that I'm doing it wrong. My wife keeps telling me it'll come but when? I want to feel what I'm supposed to feel. Is anyone else dealing with this or am I just broken?

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JJosh E.Regular1d ago

Man, that's real talk right there. I felt the same way with my first kid - thought I'd be this instant superhero dad but it took a few weeks to really click. Completely normal and you're already ahead by being honest about it.

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SSawyer N.Regular1d ago

Both my kids took time to bond with too. Everyone makes it sound like instant fireworks but the truth is you're both just trying to figure each other out. You're doing fine.

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WWade G.Regular1d ago

Yeah dude, I'm only 4 months in and I'm still learning every single day. The love is definitely there but bonding is like... a process, you know? Give yourself some grace, it gets easier.

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