Bonding With Newborn - Feels Weird

2w ago·1 min read

My son is 2 weeks old and I feel like I should be more connected or in love or whatever dads are supposed to feel. Right now he mostly looks like a potato and doesn't do much except cry and poop. I know that sounds terrible but I'm being honest. My wife seems instantly obsessed with him but I'm just trying to figure out how to hold him without freaking out about breaking him. Does the bonding thing happen later? Or is something wrong with me?

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OOliver Q.Regular2w ago

Two weeks in, that's totally normal man. I'm five months in and some days I'm still terrified I'm doing it wrong. But then he smiled at me yesterday and it all clicked a little more. It comes.

TTim P.New Dad2w ago

Dude, give it time. I felt the same way at first. The connection builds gradually, not all at once. You're already doing the work by being present, that's what matters.

BBrandonRegular2w ago

I think society puts too much pressure on the instant love thing. You're learning how to take care of a tiny human and keep him alive. The deep connection comes later. You're already bonding by being present.

MMason T.New Dad2w ago

Hey man, two weeks is still super early. I'm at three months now and I didn't really feel that instant connection everyone talks about. It grew slowly for me. You're doing fine.

DDaniel R.Regular2w ago

This is totally normal. With twins I was honestly kind of overwhelmed and numb at first. The bonding happens gradually, especially when sleep deprivation is hitting you this hard. Give it time.