Feeling completely useless because I can't breastfeed

Aug 4·1 min read

This is probably going to sound dumb but I've been feeling like I'm not doing enough. My wife is doing all the breastfeeding and I'm just changing diapers and trying to keep the house from falling apart. I want to feel more connected to my son but what else can I do? Anyone else felt like this in the early days? How did you get past it?

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FFelix R.RegularAug 5

Man, you're not useless at all. I felt the exact same way when my son was born. But I realized pretty quick that I had my own role, you know? Diaper changes, being the one who can take the baby so your wife can shower, night feeds with a bottle if you're doing that. You're doing more than you think.

CChris M.RegularAug 6

Nah dude, not dumb at all. I went through this hard with both my kids. The truth is you're doing plenty by being there, being supportive, and wanting to help. That's literally most of the battle right there.

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BBrian M.RegularAug 5

This is so real. My wife does most of the feeding and I definitely had those moments where I felt like I was just standing around. But honestly, being present and helping with everything else matters just as much. You're building the bond too, even if the feeding part isn't your lane.