My wife and I have a 3 week old and I feel like I'm losing my mind. We're doing shifts at night so one of us can sleep but even when it's my 'off' shift I can't fall asleep because I'm listening for the baby or thinking about her. When did this get easier for you guys? My buddy said first 3 months are the hardest but I'm not sure I'm gonna make it.
The sleep deprivation is brutal, not gonna lie. Even on your off shift your brain stays in high alert mode. Hang in there, it gets better around the 6-8 week mark.
Three weeks in and you're still standing, so you're already doing better than you think. The fog does lift eventually, just power through.
Dude, those first weeks are brutal. I remember at 3 weeks I couldn't tell if it was Tuesday or Saturday anymore. The shift thing helped us - at least one person got a solid 4 hour block. Don't expect to feel human again until like week 8 or 9. You're doing better than you think.
The shifts saved my marriage honestly. My wife took 9-2am, I took 2-7am. Knowing you have a guaranteed block of sleep coming makes the exhaustion more bearable somehow. Hang in there man, week 6 is where things start clicking.
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Coffee is your friend but also your enemy. I found that naps during the day when the baby naps actually helped more than trying to push through. You're not losing your mind, your brain is just operating on fumes. It gets better, I promise.