Is anyone else's partner just... different after having a baby?

Jan 241 min read

Not in a bad way necessarily but like, my wife is completely consumed by our 5-month-old daughter. Which is beautiful and I love watching her be an amazing mom, but sometimes I miss just... being able to talk to her about normal stuff? Yesterday I tried to tell her about something that happened at work and she was just on her phone looking at baby milestone apps the whole time. When I brought it up she snapped at me. I feel like I'm just the guy who pays for stuff and changes diapers now instead of her partner. Is this temporary or is this just what we are now?

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Comments(4)

CChris M.RegularJan 27

This gets better. Promise. At 5 months she's still in full survival mode. By month 12 you'll probably start getting your wife back.

MMatteoRegularJan 27

Yeah man, this is totally normal. My wife was the same way at that stage. She's still super involved with our daughter but around month 8 or 9 she started having more mental space for other stuff. The fourth trimester is real and she's basically still in survival mode.

MMarco R.New DadJan 25

Different isn't always bad though right? My wife became like a protective lioness over our newborn and I actually respected that instinct even when I felt left out. She's calming down now that he's 2 and it feels healthier.

BBrandonNew DadJan 27

Mine actually got worse before it got better. I felt kind of invisible for like 6 months. We finally hired a sitter once a week so we could have a couple hours alone and it honestly saved us. Doesn't fix it overnight but helps.