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Just got back from paternity leave and I'm already regretting it

Jan 16·1 min read

Took 6 weeks off when my son was born (Jan 2024, he's now 5 months). First week back at work and I feel like I'm missing everything. He's starting to giggle and do new things and I'm stuck in meetings. My boss has been cool about it but I'm getting paid to sit at a desk while my kid grows up. Thinking about asking if I can do 4 days/week instead but I know that's not realistic financially. Anyone else struggle with this guilt?

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Comments(6)

JJeremyNew DadJan 17

6 weeks is not enough honestly. I took 12 and even that felt short looking back. But you're not a bad dad for going back to work, you're providing for your family. Don't beat yourself up.

AAndy K.New DadJan 17

That first week back is brutal. I cried in my car on the way to work. It got better after like 3 weeks when we all got into a rhythm again. The guilt doesn't fully go away though, just becomes normal.

JJosh M.RegularJan 18

How's the daycare situation going? First few weeks of that was hardest for me personally, like I was questioning everything about the choice.

DDustin P.RegularJan 17

Everyone told me it would get easier but the first month back was legitimately one of the hardest months I've had. Wife and I were both stressed, kid was adjusting, I was exhausted. It does get better though.

MMiguelRegularJan 18

Hang in there. My son is 8 months old now and I'm glad I pushed through that rough transition. You're doing the right thing even if it doesn't feel like it right now.

SSteve C.RegularJan 19

The thing nobody tells you is that going back to work is also a total identity shift. Like you're not just the dad staying home anymore, now you're balancing again and it's weird.