Math'd it out this morning and holy shit. I know sleep deprivation with a newborn is normal but actually seeing the number made it real. No wonder I yelled at my wife yesterday about the dishwasher. No wonder I nearly fell asleep driving. How much longer does this actually last?
The dishwasher yelling makes complete sense now. You're running on basically fumes. Is there literally anyone who can take the baby for like 6 hours so you can sleep a full cycle?
This is real and your wife probably needs to know how bad it actually is. Like don't just complain, actually show her the math and be like 'I need help or something needs to change'
Newborns are hard but 4 hours a night for 11 weeks straight is not 'normal newborn exhaustion,' that's crisis-level. Please talk to someone about this - could be PPD related even in dads
I had a friend in a similar spot and he started sleeping in shifts in a separate room when the baby was in the newborn phase - like he'd take like 9pm-1am solid, his wife 1am-5am solid. Not ideal but better than both being destroyed
You're allowed to ask for help. Call a family member, hire someone, whatever - but something has to change. Your health matters too
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11 weeks of 4-hour sleep is actually dangerous dude. That's the kind of exhaustion that affects your reflexes and judgment. You need to talk to your wife about this being a crisis, not just newborn life