Seriously how do you guys do this? The sleep deprivation is insane. My wife is recovering and doing the night feeds and I'm trying to help but I feel so useless. Like what's my job here? I've changed maybe 50 diapers and I'm still not confident about the best way to hold him. He cries and I panic. Everyone keeps telling me it gets easier but right now it just feels overwhelming.
The fact that you're worried about doing it right means you're already doing it right. First few months are survival mode, not mastery mode. Cut yourself some slack.
Dude, at 3 weeks you're supposed to feel like you have no idea what you're doing. That's normal. Just focus on helping your wife recover and catch sleep when you can. The rest will come.
Three weeks is the hardest part honestly. You're doing more than you think just by being present and helping where you can. Sleep deprivation is brutal but it does get better. You're not alone in feeling lost right now.
3 weeks in is survival mode, that's normal. The sleep deprivation is real but I promise your body adjusts. You're doing better than you think you are right now.
Nobody knows what they're doing at 3 weeks, and anyone who says they did is lying. You're already reaching out and asking questions which means you're doing better than most. The fact that you care this much is a good sign.
Three weeks in is legitimately survival mode. You're not supposed to feel like you know what you're doing yet. The sleep deprivation is brutal I'm not gonna lie, but it does get better. Hang in there.
The fact that you're worried about doing it right means you're already doing it right. 3 weeks is still so early. Just keep the baby fed and loved and you're winning.
Dude. Three weeks. You're doing it. That's literally all you need to do right now. Your wife is recovering, the baby is fed, nobody's died. Everything else is extra credit. Give yourself permission to just exist for a few more weeks.
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Man those first weeks are brutal. No one tells you how hard it actually is. You're not alone in feeling lost. Get sleep when you can and give yourself grace.
You're gonna feel like you have no idea what you're doing for like the first 6 months and then one day it just clicks. Hang in there.