We're on night 4 with our daughter and I genuinely don't know what day it is. My wife and I are trying to trade off but honestly neither of us is getting more than an hour straight. People keep saying it gets easier but right now I can barely function at work. When does this part end?
Those first few weeks are a fog but you're doing the right thing by trading off. Just power through, take it one night at a time, and don't be too hard on yourself for being exhausted.
Night 4 is brutal, I'm not gonna lie. The trades offs help but you're both gonna feel like zombies for a bit. White noise really helped us get through those early nights, kept things calm and masked the little sounds.
Sleep deprivation is real and it sucks but it does get better. By week 2 or 3 you'll start finding a rhythm and someone will eventually sleep more than 2 hours at a time. Hang in there.
Sleep deprivation is real but it's temporary. We're past that phase now but I remember not knowing what day it was either. Lean on your wife, ask for help if you have family nearby, and just get through it one night at a time.
You're in the thick of it right now. This is the hardest part but it does pass. Congrats on your daughter though. Hang in there and don't be afraid to ask for help from anyone offering.
Night 4 is rough. Hang in there. I remember that delirious feeling where time just stops existing. Make sure you and your wife are taking turns so at least one of you can get a solid block of sleep.
The not knowing what day it is thing is real. I remember thinking Tuesday was Friday on night 5. Just make sure you and your wife are checking in on each other because the sleep deprivation hits you both differently. You've got this.
Sleep deprivation is actually dangerous. Not trying to be dramatic but make sure you're both safe if you're driving anywhere. Ask for help from family if you can get someone to take shifts with you.
It gets better I promise. By week two or three you'll start to see patterns and it feels slightly less chaotic. The fog does lift eventually.
The newborn phase is brutal. Everyone tells you sleep when the baby sleeps but that advice feels impossible when you're running on fumes. You're doing great though, just surviving this stage is winning.
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Night 4 is still survival mode. You're going to feel like a zombie for the next few weeks but it does get better. Both of you need to sleep in shifts if you can - don't try to power through together.