Sleep training at 4 months - too early or nah?

Dec 231 min read

We've been co-sleeping with our son since he was born and I love it, but my wife is exhausted (understandably) and wants to start moving him to his own room and getting him on a real sleep schedule. I read some stuff online and people say 4 months is too early but others swear by starting around now. We don't want to do Ferber or anything super harsh, but some kind of gentle method maybe?

What's your timeline been for sleep independence? Know I'll probably get flamed for asking this but genuinely unsure.

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WWill R.RegularDec 24

Honest question: are you waking up when he wakes up, or is your wife doing most of the nighttime stuff? Because if she's the one actually getting fragmented sleep while you're co-sleeping comfortably, the conversation becomes a lot clearer.

HHugh S.RegularDec 24

4 months is definitely early for formal sleep training, but transitioning to his own room is reasonable. You don't have to stop co-sleeping cold turkey though - gradual move like crib next to bed for a few weeks first?

MMatt J.RegularDec 24

Your wife being exhausted is the real issue here, not the co-sleeping itself. She needs sleep more than you need the bonding right now. I know that sucks to hear but newborns can feel that tension and it makes everything harder.

DDrew H.RegularDec 25

You can keep the co-sleeping AND move him to his own room - start with naps in the crib, then nights. Doesn't have to be all or nothing. But your wife's exhaustion is real and valid even if you love the co-sleeping.

WWalter T.RegularDec 25

Co-sleeping gets harder when the baby is moving around and waking you up constantly anyway. We made it to 5 months then moved our son to the crib and honestly everyone slept better including the baby. The transition took like 2 weeks of rough nights then he was fine.