We're exclusively breastfeeding and honestly my wife and the baby have this bond that I feel like I'm on the outside of. I do diapers, baths, and hold him when he's fussy but it feels like she's got the important job. How do other dads build that connection when the baby needs mom for food? Trying not to feel resentful but some days I do.
Bath time, getting dressed, diaper changes, nap time cuddles - those are all your bonding moments. Breastfeeding is one thing but you're doing a hundred other things she's not. You're already bonded, you just don't see it yet.
Honestly those night cuddles while he's sleeping hit different. You get these quiet moments that are just yours. The bond is definitely there, you're just in the thick of it right now.
Diaper changes are your time to bond with him. Make it silly, talk to him, make faces. You don't need to be feeding to be the parent he needs. Plus my kids never forgot who changed the blowouts at 3am.
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I felt the exact same way at first. What helped was skin to skin time, talking to him constantly about what we're doing, and just being the dad who's always there when mom needs a break. That bond builds different but it builds strong.