Why is everyone so judgy about bottle feeding?

Dec 21·1 min read

Okay rant incoming. My wife had complications after birth so we went to formula pretty early. I've gotten MULTIPLE comments from family members about it being "such a shame," people suggesting she didn't try hard enough, and even some weird guilt-tripping about "bonding."

My kid is thriving. Fed is fed. My wife's mental health is stable. But apparently that's controversial?

I don't get why this is still such a thing. She's literally feeding our child nutrients they need. That's the job.

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Comments(4)

BBen D.RegularDec 21

The "such a shame" comments are so outdated. Fed is best, and if your wife had complications, formula wasn't a compromise—it was the right call. Anyone giving you grief needs to zip it. Your kid is thriving and that's what matters.

KKenny W.RegularDec 22

That's infuriating. Your wife's health complications trump everyone's opinions. Formula is literally designed to feed babies. The fact that family is making her feel bad about a medical decision is not okay.

AAaron W.RegularDec 22

The judgment around formula is wild. We did the same thing after complications and I learned to just shut down the comments immediately: "We're doing what's best for our family, end of story." Don't JADE (justify, argue, defend, explain)—they'll just keep pushing.

GGene K.RegularDec 23

People are weirdly emotional about this stuff. She did what worked for HER body and YOUR baby. That's literally the right choice. Anyone implying otherwise has some weird hang-ups that aren't your problem.