Wife and I haven't had sex since baby was born and I'm worried about our relationship

1w ago1 min read

My wife is 8 weeks postpartum and we're not physically close at all. I'm not trying to pressure her or anything, I know she needs time to heal and she's exhausted from feeding. But I'm starting to feel disconnected from her. We're like roommates managing a baby instead of partners. Is this temporary? Do things go back to normal? How do you guys navigate this phase without making your partner feel guilty?

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RRob H.Regular1w ago

That's a really important thing to address but honestly 8 weeks postpartum she might still be physically recovering. Have you talked to her about how she's actually feeling? Could be pain, could be exhaustion, could be hormone shifts. Communication is key here.

BBrianRegular1w ago

Eight weeks is still really early. Her body just went through something massive and she's probably exhausted from feeding and lack of sleep. I'd focus less on the physical stuff and more on little touches, helping her rest, just being present. The intimacy will come back.

PPhil M.New Dad1w ago

Real talk: this is normal and temporary. Your wife's body is healing and her hormones are all over the place. Instead of worrying about your relationship, focus on supporting her through this phase. The physical connection will come back when she's ready.

TTony M.Regular1w ago

This is tough but also super common. After my first kid I thought something was broken between us but turns out she just needed time and honestly, a break from being touched all day by the baby. We ended up scheduling a date night at like 10 weeks and it helped her feel like herself again. Took the pressure off completely.

LLucasRegular1w ago

8 weeks is still really early man. My wife needed a solid 12 weeks before she even wanted to be touched, and that was with zero pressure from me. The postpartum stuff is real - hormones, healing, exhaustion. Just keep being patient and maybe talk to her about what she needs right now instead of what you need. That conversation saved us.

BBrandonNew Dad1w ago

The fact that you're worried about the relationship and not just frustrated about the sex thing tells me you're already doing it right. Keep communicating with her. Don't make it weird. It comes back.